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I received some tough reader feedback on this post, in my email:

Do you have any particular excuse for feeling “strangely detached” or is that all you had to say?

Well I don’t feel detached, though I haven’t lived in NY for 35 years. So I think I’ll unsubscribe and go look for some substack writer with a more appealing motto than “I really don’t care.” You’ll be fine without me—indifference to the fate of living beings other than oneself is all the rage in Trump’s America.

PS can’t find a way to unsubscribe, so I’m blocking you. Have a fun, indifferent life!

This was my response, which I'm sharing here to clarify for others as well:

Thank you for your challenging questions in response to my post today. It's a good reminder of how words can be taken out of context of the body of my work, especially now that I'm writing for more people who don't know me personally.

What I meant to imply, although I did not say explicitly, is that I am wiped out and numb from the onslaught of bad news over the past two weeks. My capacity to feel horror and distress is diminished right now. I hope my previous post (https://pinchofdirt.substack.com/p/it-was-election-day-in-america) shows that I am not at all indifferent to the fate of people, animals, or the planet. But I appreciate being pressed to defend my language.

You are of course free to unsubscribe (the link is in the footer of every email). But I wanted to reach out and clarify what I meant.

Sincerely,

Jessica McKenzie

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Alexandra's avatar

I expect you need (and deserve) a break from grieving.

Thich Nhat Hanh warned against "Useless sadness, doesn't help anyone". Sadness is optional. Action might be mandated, but what action?

I came across this, cited by Annie Mahon: "During a Question & Answer session some years ago, Zen master Thich Nhat Hanh was asked, “What is the hardest part of your practice?” I expected him to say, “stilling the mind” or “working with anger.” Nope. Thich Nhat Hanh answered that “not falling into despair” was the hardest part of his Buddhist mindfulness practice."

I guess TNH had many things to despair about, but he did enjoy cultivating peppermint plants. From Buddhism to Voltaire!

Please don't feel obliged to be sad.

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